There is a lot going on right now in this world. Most of it is surrounding being easily
offended and being “intolerant”. What is
going on? You can’t voice your opinion
without making people mad, friends unfriending each other on Facebook, or
relationships being damaged. What has
happened? We have disregarded grace
along with the One that provides it.
First, we have to receive grace to fully be able to give
it. How do we do this? Ephesians 2:4-5 and 8-10 reads:
4But God, who
is rich in mercy, for his great love wherewith he loved us, 5Even
when we were dead in sins, hath made us alive together with Christ, (by whose
grace you are saved;)
8For by grace
are you saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God:
9Not of works, that any man should boast. 10For we are his workmanship,
created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath prepared that we should
walk in them.
Here we can see that we receive grace from God when we put
our faith in Jesus Christ. What is
faith? Faith is to have confidence in
the testimony of another. Therefore, to
have faith in Jesus Christ, you must have confidence that He is who He said He
is – God in the flesh, Redeemer, Son of God, propitiation for our sins, and too
many more to list. If you have faith in
Christ then you receive God’s grace.
What is grace? Grace
is unmerited favor. Let’s take a look at
that equation then:
Confidence in the testimony of Jesus Christ = Unmerited
favor with God
Pretty simple.
Let’s take this a step further then. This is the amazing part! God doesn’t just grant us His grace so we can
have eternal life. He gives us this
grace (and love) so we can give it to others.
He expects us to do this and provides us with an unending supply. Take a look at 2 Corinthians 9:8:
And God is able to make
all grace abound toward you; that you, always having all sufficiency in all
things, may abound to every good work.
Also look at Ephesians 4:29
Let no corrupt
communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of
edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.
We can see in both of these passages that God grants us
grace so we can abound in it and minister it to those around us.
When we lack in grace, it is because we’re not plugged into
The Source, and then we become focused on tolerance. The definition of tolerance is to accept or
endure (someone or something unpleasant or disliked) with forbearance. Wait!
What? Tolerance doesn’t change my
opinion or view of you or your actions.
I simply keep my mouth shut. I
don’t want that from people, and I don’t want to behave that way toward
others. I want to give and receive
grace.
To really see the difference, let’s dig into the definition
of grace – unmerited favor. Unmerited
means we don’t deserve it. I know I have
those days that I’m not on my best behavior or I may have views we can’t agree
on or I may have some sin in my life that bothers you. That all makes it unmerited. What is favor? Favor is overgenerous, preferential treatment. Now read the definition of tolerance
again. Which do you prefer?
Now don’t get me wrong that offering grace does not mean
that people get a free pass to live with sin in their lives. A piece, if you will, of that grace is loving
someone enough to hold them accountable for their actions. To see what God sees in them, and challenge
them in love to be that person. That may
include calling sin out in their life.
That does not mean you are not offering grace, but rather you want God’s
very best for their life.
Over the past couple years, I’ve had the privilege of having
a boss and a friend that has filled this role in my life. While some conversations are hard to process,
I am so thankful for them. They have
seen something in me that I had never saw and challenged me to reach higher,
have more faith, trust more, and be bolder.
I am so thankful they didn’t just tolerate me where I was. I am so much better for it.
Next time someone calls something out in your life, don’t
cry for tolerance. Prayerfully search
your heart with God’s guidance to see if they’re not actually offering grace
and love through accountability. It
could change your life...and your eternity.